tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post114671526075799465..comments2023-10-08T04:07:59.870-05:00Comments on Supermom Is Dead: Lonely BoySuperMomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00373722602201237644noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146875489591872862006-05-05T19:31:00.000-05:002006-05-05T19:31:00.000-05:00In our community we have soccer teams. Maybe if ...In our community we have soccer teams. Maybe if he joined one of those, he would get to play and it would be a controlled atmosphere.<BR/><BR/>This is actually one of the chief reasons that I choose not to homeschool. I wanted the girls to be around kids of their own age during the day and to make lots of friends. <BR/><BR/>That and I lack the patience to teach children (I think I lack the patience to teach women :-)michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01681522311658153789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146851627918829812006-05-05T12:53:00.000-05:002006-05-05T12:53:00.000-05:00Have you ever looked into once a week bible studie...Have you ever looked into once a week bible studies for you that offer childcare? I am in one right now and it is a good two hours away from mom with other kids. It is also a wonderful time for me. Cool part...it's FREE! We brought these mounds of snacks at the beginning and that was it. You don't normally have to be a member to enjoy. It is a great way to meet people from other churches in your area. I am so far away here in CO from family, it was a great way for me to meet a few other moms.jjofarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04983309138069771662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146800663219421022006-05-04T22:44:00.000-05:002006-05-04T22:44:00.000-05:00My Anna is much like your son-- such a social gir...My Anna is much like your son-- such a social girl. I'm involved in a once-a-week homeschool co-op, but it doesn't totally do it for her because the co-op is an hour away and so we don't do anything else with any of those kids.<BR/><BR/>To add insult to injury, our older kids are in school, and so she hears about all of the fun they have "up at the big school." <BR/><BR/>In the end, I think it's OK to be lonely (some.) But I struggle with feelings of guilt too. I substitute up at the school on Fridays, and everytime I do it, I feel reassured that we're doing the right thing with her. But then I struggle with feelings of guilt that maybe we should have my 10 year old son back at home.<BR/><BR/>All in all, though, we pray about each child and my husband plays a heavier hand than I do in the decision about who stays and who goes. <BR/><BR/>God is in control. :)Michelle- This One's for the Girlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13290817898576960368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146793472149613772006-05-04T20:44:00.000-05:002006-05-04T20:44:00.000-05:00I am much like your son... it is all I can do to s...I am much like your son... it is all I can do to stay home some days. My solution is to hang out with friends at the park and pool (Holly is one of those!)at McD's or anywhere I can make it happen. Do you have church friends that you could hang out with more often... or homeschooled friends you could invite over weekly? During the summer, Holly and I try to have a schedule so that the kids can know what is going to happen and they are much happier. You might try it!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09851516852287431838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146789403055438052006-05-04T19:36:00.000-05:002006-05-04T19:36:00.000-05:00Wow, you have gotten some great advice! Barefootp...Wow, you have gotten some great advice! Barefootpoet - you amaze me! So wise. I needed to read that your father was your greatest influence, no matter what your peers had to offer. <BR/><BR/>Owlhaven, I look forward to reading more of your wisdom. I've learned to surround myself with wise mothers - and I think I've just found another one!<BR/><BR/>I, too, have a son who is like me -outgoing. He goes to public school and loves the social interaction. But, there are days I cringe because of words or attitudes he comes home with. But because we believe it is God's plan for him to be in public school, I have to pray and deal with it. <BR/><BR/>Supermom, you are a wise mom who is so real. I have no doubt that Brother knows deep in his heart that there is no other place he'd rather be than right there with you in the role of precious son and loving big brother!joyfuljourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886860163073386990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146780767568460392006-05-04T17:12:00.000-05:002006-05-04T17:12:00.000-05:00I do not homeschool my children, but I can respect...I do not homeschool my children, but I can respect those who do. I understand you need to help your son choose his friends. I try to do the same. I try to encourage those friendship that my children enjoy and I approve of. I try to get together often with these kids so that those friendships can become stong. I have a group of "church moms" with kids my kids age....we meet at the park and go to the pool in the summers. It's wonderful. I get to enjoy adult convestation, and the kids get to play with kids they like and I approve of. On another note if you have an Academy sporting goods store where you live they are selling Supermom tshirts for mothers day. Since the group of women I hang out with have never met you we refere to you as suppermom. This shirt would be great for you. (It looks like a superman shirt)Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07572674080777709192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146764884809192812006-05-04T12:48:00.000-05:002006-05-04T12:48:00.000-05:00I was homeschooled ya know. And I think I'm a peo...I was homeschooled ya know. And I think I'm a people person. Is getting involved in a co-op or something an option for you guys? That was really nice for me as a kid. From the time I was about 6 or 7 until I was 11 we went to a homeschool co-op 1 or 2 times a week. It was nice for me to be around other kids but also to be around other kids that came from the same sort of place I did. Shared the same sorts of values and didn't think HS was weird. They also had the same worried parents. Just an idea. (Big cheesy toothy grin.)jesprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08638409353804355510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146747304116323592006-05-04T07:55:00.000-05:002006-05-04T07:55:00.000-05:00I think you're wise to choose his friends carefull...I think you're wise to choose his friends carefully while he is young. As he gets older and you're confident of his good decision-making skills, he can broaden his horizons. One thing, though, about extremely social kids is that SOME of them are very easily led by peers. Depending on the friend, that can be good or bad. So in rethinking the friend dilemma, assess your kid. Is he a leader? A follower? A pleaser? Will he stick up for what's right, or will he cave? The answers to these questions may help guide your decisions...<BR/><BR/>Mary, mom to manyowlhavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00169255573932551049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18378633.post-1146719422711110712006-05-04T00:10:00.000-05:002006-05-04T00:10:00.000-05:00Look, I'm barely into this parenting thing and I'm...Look, I'm barely into this parenting thing and I'm not sure how I'll feel about all the issues you're facing. I do know this, I played with lots of friends growing up, including ones that my parents were leary of. They controlled some of the times and places more with certain friends, less with others. I had a lot of friends, a lot of guy friends, but my dad was and remains my single greatest earthly influence. I don't think that with parents that are as engaged and involved as you and hubby are you would need to be concerned about his greatest sphere of influence. I hope he always has a special relationship with his sisters, but he needs time with boys, lots of time, this I believe.thebarefootpoethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09104562299075716907noreply@blogger.com